My Dad was a great man

Thank you Daddy,
For being such a dedicated father and husband in your entire life.

Thank you Daddy,
For being compassionate about your Faith in Him.
For your endless reminder to stay believing in Him. I remember going to church every sunday evenings with you Daddy. You hated me if i skipped church, you always said, there’s 24 hours times seven in a week, you can not just spare two hours to spend time with Him? And You always rushing me, because you hate to be late. You said to me firm and clear, if you can be on time meeting your friends for a movie, why cant you be on time to go to church? And you always asked me to dress properly, to look my best to praise Him. Daddy, how i missed those time we went to church together, and eating out having family dinner afterward. We were so silly Daddy, we usually fought a lot just because we can not decide where to go for dinner. I cherish those memories, Daddy.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For being such a loving father for your three children.
For being super fully committed and faithful to your marriage to my mom.
You never told me in words about faithfulness in love and marriage, but deeply i admire the way you show how much you always adore, respect and love momma. This might sounds like too good to be true, but never in my entire life i see nor hear you have interest in other woman. That is why Daddy, thank you for teaching me the important values in relationship and marriage. I always said to my ex-boyfriends back then i’m not really good dealing with cheating, since I look up to you Daddy.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For being so over-protective to me, treated me always like a crystal vase. I found it really annoying back then, called you paranoid, but i understand the reason is because you have a very challenging childhood. An orphan in young age, you just try your best to make your children have a better childhood, better education, better in everything than you had. You just don’t want any of your family get through all the pain and suffering you had. That is how much you love me, how much you love us.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For showing me to be a hard-worker when it comes to earning in life. You have to earn everything, and when there’s a will, there’s a way. You have to pray and also show fully efforts to get the best. Ora et Labora. Don’t wait until tomorrow what you can do today. Plan A Head. Those all your advises for many years as we grown up. Sorry if i sometimes rolling my eyes behind your back, you repeated almost every single day,but all those things you said are definitely true, and stick with me until now.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For showing me, and my brothers that nothing is impossible with prayers and hard work. From a struggling orphan at age nine, you achieved so many things, you get your dreams, you work and go to school almost your entire life….being so independent until you are at the top of the world, Director of Operation in PT. Pos Indonesia. You give your dedication to that company for 30 more years, became an international delegation and make Indonesia one of top list in International Postal Union, for many years. Indonesia needs more publications; you said. You are so proud of your country, Daddy. You work so hard to get our country noticed and get all attention in all international meetings you attended. I remember; you always be Mr. Congeniality in all those meetings and conferences,  all your international colleagues recognize and know you for your humors and friendly attitudes. They called you Mr. Tabasco, since you always ask for Tabasco in your lunch and dinner, you can’t stand all those bland western foods. You never forget to bring ulos, or other Indonesian souvenirs. You don’t care if you luggages became over-weight,  Once you even brought a whole set of mini angklungs. Yes, Daddy, i know you try your best to introduce Indonesia to all over the world.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For makes us proud. All your achievements, all your successes, all your interest in languages, knowledges. I always admire you, speaking many different languages. From English, French, Dutch, German, Bataknese, Javanese, Sundanese…all fluent, Daddy. I hope i can be just like you someday.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For teaching us always being humble. One of our relatives came after your funeral Daddy. He said what he remembered the most about you is your friendliness. You can always embrace everybody, anybody. Even though your Daddy is on the top of her success, he always welcome anybody, especially relatives who come to his house, he said. Your Daddy always want to sit down, spent time or have lunch on the same table with us, the nobody’s. He said he always get so touchy about that. He feels so respected and welcomed. Yes Daddy, that is so you. From the drivers, gardeners, construction workers,or simply administration officers, janitors, long lost relatives,whatever their occupation, you always say hi, thank you, or at least asking how they doing. That is why every time i came to your work after school, everybody treated me like a princess and always supply me with lots of food.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For giving us always the best that you can afford for us.
We all have a very good childhood, Daddy. Quite spoiled, if i have to say. You always provide the very best you can for us. Food, Life style, Money…but still in decent term. You never gave us too much of pocket money, so we know how to appreciate it. Especially when it comes to education, you always give us privilege to choose what we’re interested in. You never forced us to do or learn something we dont want to. You only asked to be committed and work hard for the major we choose. You are so liberal in this matter, Daddy. Many of my friends envy me, for their parents already set up a path for their career or future. You even supported me to choose Graphic Design, daddy. Back then, this major rarely exist, and there’s not too many people aware or even know what the heck it is. But you, Daddy, always believed in me. You told me that i have talent and encouraged me to go on. And Daddy, it’s amazing how you want to spent hours and hours when you on duty over seas, to go to art stores, book stores all over the town if you need to just to look for a single paint brush, designing books, even a set of crayola for me. Oh, and thank you for a very expensive 100 faber castells color pencils you bought for me, after we spent weeks to find it. You just gave your credit card at once to buy it, and i think you are happier than me when we find it. I still keep that thing back home in my study table back home, Daddy. It will always remind me of you.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For letting me go. Twice. (These probably the best gifts you ever give me, Daddy)
First, for letting me go to study overseas. All of my friends, our relatives even my self were totally surprised that you let me go to Arkansas for my graduate school, Daddy. All of living things know, you are super protected to all of your children, especially me, your only one daughter. You can not even let me roaming alone in book store, you always ask our driver to follow me into the store, even at the age of 20′s. (It’s embarrassing Daddy, most of the times….but even all my friends already gave up and too tired to tease me about it….:P, i try sneaked away from our driver…but i just dont have a heart sometimes, because i know he will be in a big trouble if he’s coming home without me). But Daddy, when you let me go in 2001 to study abroad, i more realized how much you loved me. You hold back your own feelings, your pressed your paranoia just to make sure i have a better future. I’m so proud and so happy, Daddy….you trusted me to be independent, you trusted me to get my future, you give me chances to achieve and pursue my dreams; experience life. That is why i worked so hard while im in school Daddy. Thank you Daddy. I grown up a lot while I’m away.

 

Thank you Daddy,
For letting me go, again, this time with the one person I chooseand love, Daddy.
It took more than 5 years for you and mom to give me and Marvin your blessings. We fought, and we didnt even spoke for a while. I never hate you or mom for that Daddy. Because deep inside, i know you and mom. I understand your reasons. You want the best for me. I just hate the yelling, the temper, the fighting and the unnecessary words out of it. But Daddy, i know someday you will accept him. Marvin reminds me a lot of you, Daddy. It’s just unfortunate thing that he’s not a bataknese. I know you are so proud of being Bataknese, Daddy. So do I. But i’m sorry i can not find or love any bataknese guys, Daddy. I told you i try. But Daddy, i can not be happier the day you give your blessings to us, Daddy. I will remember that day, when we talked on our dinning table. You told me Marvin, I’m your most precious gift, the only daughter you have. And you asked him if he is a beliver and have a good faith in Him. And you told him to take best care of me, to love me and never neglected me. And finally you asked us, Marvin and I, to living the life the best we could. I remember everybody’s cried, especially you and Marvin. A promise from man to man. An deep, loving hug between my two great men in my life. I must be the luckiest person on earth.

 

Thank you,Daddy.
For everything.
As much as i miss you now, as much as i want you to be on my wedding and walk me down to the aisle,Daddy…..i’m really grateful and so blessed to have a great dad like you in my life. I know you’ve been trying so hard to hang on. I’m sorry i can not be around lately Daddy. I’m sorry i cant make things go faster, or any easier for you at the end of your life. Forgive me, Daddy. But i hope you know how much i love, adore and respected you.

I know you already happy now up there Daddy. I know this time, you’re ready. No more pain, no more sorrow. Have fun and good time up there in heaven, Daddy. You will stay in my heart and our heart, Daddy.  Your memories will live through my life, Daddy. I will take good care of momma. Until we meet again, Daddy. Someday, we will be altogether, in our Father house.

Thank you Daddy, for being you, for being a great and wonderful dad…..

Thank you for everthing, Daddy.

Thank you for giving me more than enough reasons that i proudly can say;
my dad was great man.

Rest in Peace, Daddy.
I love you, and miss you so much.

In memoriam,
My Dad,
Drs.Sahat Marulitua Hutagaol
Pangkalpinang, October 2, 1938 – Jakarta, November 19,2010

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